The plan of happiness

I have been thinking a lot lately about what I have learned in my life and I think some should be passed on to my children, mostly about marriage. I learned these from watching my parents but i learned them too late for my own marriage.
1. Before you marry find out how your partner thinks about raising children, women workiing outside the home before and after having children, who does what chores, how you are going to handle money, what you have in common especially values,etc.
2. Just because you belong to the same church and are attneding doesn't mean your testimony is close to the same. Make sure your testimonies are similar and that you are both either working on improving it or that you agree on the important values of the church or your own values - lying, cheating, gambling, trustworthiness,
3. Treat each other as if you were already a queen or king. Take care of each other, serve each other, love each other. My mother was a great homemaker in spite of having to be on call for the store. My dad would always be sure she had what she needed. He would take money out of the store till and say go buy a new dress or go get your hair done. They cared about the other's needs.
4. Both of you work hard at whatever you feel is your duty. Now it is more difficult because so many women work outside the home but if you are earning the money do your best at that, if you are home with the responsibilities there and the children do your best at that. Your honest communication about these subjects will save a lot of heartache. It is difficult to anticipate all the issues that might come up but try to think about 10 years from now and how you want things to be.
5. Agree on how to teach and discipline the children. My dad gave this responsibility to my mother and said he would support her because she would be with the children most of the time. Most of the time he stayed out of it but once in awhile he would say. "Now Helen!" He was never harsh with her. He did take over sometimes and sing to us and read us stories when mother got tired of trying to get us to go to bed. They always agreed in front of us so that we knew they were together on things.
6. IF you can't agree on something you can agree to disagree and not force each other to comply. Also any problems should be taken to the Lord anyway. Praying together as a couple prevents a lot of problems.
7. If you insist you are right, you probably are wrong.
8. Remember you were raised by different parents with different ideas and ways of doing things. Be tolerant and willing to change.
I could go on and on and give specific situations but I won't. Just work at caring more about the other than you care about yourself unless it involves abuse or selfishness.
I love you all and wish the best for each of you.